When I do or say something that causes hurt or harm – I will be quick to apologize. But I will NOT apologize for your words, actions, or choices.
I will be kind and compassionate but not in such a way that it enables you to be thoughtless, cruel – verbally abusive even – with no consequences.
Though I long for peace – I won’t fake peace or ignore or, worse yet, smooth over and soften cruel bigotry of others.
My codependent and enabling days are done. I refuse to be an “Edith” to someone else’s “Archie”.